Have you ever been asked, “What type of relationship do you want?”
To the people of our generation, I am sure that the answer to this question is YES. People think – people who have been single for too long are the hardest to love. But the real question is, what is LOVE? It’s a highly subjective term. My friends often berate me for never even dating someone.
“How will you know what you want and what you can’t tolerate in a partner?” They say. A few days ago, I began to question myself the same. But I believe that everyone knows what they want in a relationship. I agree that I don’t have a clear picture of what an ideal relationship looks like, but let me generalize this.
I believe we all want to be loved for who we are. We can’t act like someone else for a long time in front of others. As a result, someone who accepts us for who we are, without passing any judgment, is important. Someone with whom we can be completely honest and forthright about everything.
We want a relationship where we don’t have to constantly explain ourselves as it might be tiring. We want a best friend that will always be there for us and would understand us simply by hearing our voice.
We want a relationship in which the other person is making the same efforts as we are. A relationship should not be one-sided, with only one person bearing responsibility for its upkeep. We want the other to understand that he or she should not expect us to change our basic nature. No one has the power to change one’s core nature. We should adjust, but I don’t believe anyone would accept compromise. You can’t expect someone to change their choices only to make a relationship work. We want someone who will not expect us to be someone else or compare us to others.
We want someone who will be honest with us when he or she is upset and will not keep a record of our mistakes. It’s completely acceptable to have differing viewpoints, likes, and dislikes. But the question is whether the person will be honest with us and will not drag out the fights for too long. We want someone who makes their point rather than disregarding ours.
We want a relationship in which the other person accepts our shortcomings. Someone who is willing to push us to achieve better in life by supporting us in bringing our positive side to the surface and making the most of our strengths, while also bringing our inadequacies and incompleteness to our attention politely in order to make us understand if required.
I’m not sure if that’s too much to ask in a relationship or if that’s what is needed to make a relationship work. But one thing I am certain of is that if you expect something from someone, you should offer the same.
As it is rightly said – It takes two people to make a relationship work, but just one person to make it fail.
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